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Gossip – Who Does it Hurt?

Gossip – Who Does it Hurt?

If you want a happy life and good days, keep your tongue from speaking evil, and keep your lips from telling lies.” (1 Peter 3:10)

As a young and naive baseball wife, it was easy for me to follow the lead of other wives. To help me, God placed older women in my life, as if to be mentors in the lifestyle I was about to endure. I was twenty years of age when I began to travel with my future husband. Little did I know back then how difficult it would often be to be accepted by the other wives. The good Lord knew that and helped me build friendships with the wives of managers and coaches. The wisdom that was shared with me is far beyond any teaching you could get from college. Gossip 101 was my first course – and one that every baseball wife should be required to take! As wives we need to know that gossip can sometimes make or break our husbands’ careers. Many things that we speak have the potential to not only jeopardize their careers but also to hurt others for life.

So many times I found myself listening to conversations filled with gossip without partaking in them. I believed that as long as I was just listening, I wasn’t participating. Quite the contrary! As long as I was thinking and absorbing, my spirit was being fed, making me weak to do what I knew was wrong. I finally had to remove myself from those conversations so I wouldn’t become a victim of one of them. Not only can our tongues get us in trouble but they can alter our husband’s careers in many ways. I was once in a situation where a coach’s wife asked me to speak to a player’s wife to warn her about her gossiping. Is she couldn’t control her mouth, her husband was looking at a trade or release! Gossip may begin at lunch, but it may very well end up in the locker room.

Proverbs 26:20  “Fire goes out of lack of fuel, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops.”

Stop the chain of gossip with you. Stop the fires of gossip from spreading beyond you. I began to ask the Lord to guard my ears and tongue before I engaged in any conversations. In turn, I began to initiate the conversations and share what God had done in my life. I was often able to share how I could never make it in this game without God as the Leader and Strength in my life.

Colossians 3:8-17  “And whatever you do or say, let it be as a representative of the Lord Jesus….”

Be cautious of the company you keep and the thoughts you entertain. One quick word could cause a lifetime of sorrow. If we focus on what is good and helpful, gossip will find no foothold in our hearts.

Prayer: Lord, protect the tongues of those who wish to speak evil of others, and embrace them with your love so they may only speak words of love and encouragement.

Suggested Reading: 1 Peter 3:8-12

– Jeanie Velarde, wife of former MLB player Randy Velarde, for BaseballChapel.org

(posted with permission from BaseballChapel.org)


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